When my mom's health began to decline, she would often ramble on and on about things that I didn't understand. There were moments where she was lucid and there were other moments....well let's just say I would rather forget those moments. From day to day I didn't know what I would encounter with her and I began to get frustrated seeing my mom decline slowly each and every day. It was torture for me at times. Then one day, I was visiting her in the hospital and she told me that she wanted to preach a sermon. I was confused at first and fearful that this was going to be one of the "bad days." As I continued to listen, she told me that she wanted to preach from Matthew 25 - the parable of the ten virgins. While she went from moments of clarity to moments of confusion, that scripture stuck with me. Of all the passages in the Bible, why would my mom choose that one?
Matthew 25 is a parable that correlates the coming of Jesus Christ to ten virgins who are waiting for their bridegroom to appear. Five of them make preparations to bring oil for their lamps while the others do not. When the bridegroom appears, the five virgins who had not prepared miss their opportunity while the five who made preparations entered in to marital bliss. This parable has many lessons but one that I have drawn from it is of course being prepared for the Savior's return. Maybe that is why my mom picked that scripture. She had a glimpse into eternity and saw its splendor and wanted everyone to have the opportunity to experience it. I, however, have often wondered why God chose to use marriage to describe the relationship between Christ and His church.
When I first saw my husband, I was immediately drawn to his spirit. It was just something about him. I didn't even know his name and when I went to his church to conduct a workshop, we didn't even have a conversation. The next time I conducted a workshop at the church, we only briefly talked. However, that evening I sent him a facebook request and he accepted. He sent me a message that evening and the rest is well...history. We only dated for a few months before we got engaged. The following year we got married. Corey later shared with me that when he first saw me, God told him that I would be his wife.
I can honestly say that it was worth the wait to let God bring the right man into my life. I have been married before but I didn't wait for God's timing and I have had to deal with the consequences of trying to make something work that God did not ordain. God however in His infinite mercy sent me someone who would be there for me through thick and thin. Corey was worth the wait. When I lost the ability to walk, he could have thrown in the towel. He could have gotten tired of cooking, cleaning, and taking care of three boys that were not biologically his, but he didn't. He could have become overwhelmed with the burden of financially taking care of the household when I could no longer work, but he has been a pillar of strength. He has been patient with me through some of the darkest hours and no matter how many times I have tried to push him away, he continues to love me. No matter how frustrated, ill or even down right angry I get, his response is always, "It's gonna be okay."
Corey has shown me that the expression of marriage is the ultimate display of God's abiding love for us. In marriage there is a leaving of mother and father and a cleaving to your spouse. When we come to Christ He is calling us to leave our old life and cleave to Him. In marriage the two flesh become one. The ultimate goal in our relationship with God is that there be such a oneness of mind, a oneness of deed and action that we become like Christ. We are to be His sheep and so in tune with Him that we hear His voice despite any chaos in our lives. As a wife submits to her husband, we in turn are to submit to God. In our relationship with God, sometimes we don't want to wait on Him even though He knows what is best for us. God is so patient and loving that He lets us have our pity parties and tantrums yet He is still there waiting with open arms when we are ready to submit to Him. The five virgins who did not prepare for the bridegroom lost their opportunity to experience God's best. God is calling each and every one of us to enter into relationship with Him, but we can't be too busy doing other things that we miss God. We have to be willing to wait on our change to come, no matter how long it takes. We cannot grow weary in well doing less we meet the fate of the five virgins and miss out on our blessing.
My mom has since gone on to be with the Lord, but she got her wish - she preached that message to me and I am grateful for the gift God gave me because of it. I can truly say without any reservation - it was worth the wait to see the manifestation of God's love through this union we call marriage. I can only imagine what it will be like to see His face in eternity. I don't know when that day will come but I know it will be worth the wait.
Thank you mom for teaching me such a valuable lesson. God is love.
Until next time....Be Real. Be Authentic. Be You!